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In my daily work I'm the whip-cracker for the Good Vibes Magazine, where I am also a columnist. I am the founding editor of the Magazine, and am having a blast as the big cheese -- I'm pushing the content to be edgy, smart, and as fun as sex should be. I write all the lubricious intro content, a column about porn and the adult industry The XXX Files, and frequent articles about sexual health. My training in sex education comes from GV's stringent SESA Training, our ongoing education program, the endless stream of sex-ed books and videos I review every week, constant consultations with my sex educator colleagues, and plenty of face-to-face work with customers in the stores.
I did this entire web site myself, without even asking my smarty-pants SRL computer friends. I researched and designed it, then sat down with Elizabeth Castro's book, HTML for the World Wide Web, and Dreamweaver 4 to make it all happen. So don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it yourself! Here's my really nifty official bio and publicity page for folks who care about this stuff. Oh, and there is a porn star who recently emerged that calls herself Violet Blue -- it's not me! She's blonde, and pretty much the exact opposite of me, but she's cute and winning lots of AVN awards, including AVN's Best New Starlet 2002. Go girl! |
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Drop me a line anytime at nibbles@tinynibbles.com I respond to your letters! Names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent... Hi
Violet- Hi,
great to hear from you! Well, the Fukuoku
is a fun little finger vibe that's cordless and very quiet. It's
great because you can really control the application (it's literally
on the tip of your finger), and you can combine it with a penetrative
toy (such as a dildo) quite easily. The iSurge
and Pulsatron
vibes are getting rave reviews because you can really play around
with the speeds and you can make them pulse, something that Good
Vibes' employees and customers are really, er, enthusiastic about. Twice-as-nice
vibes are a style of vibrator that combine penetration with clitoral
stimulation -- they usually have a little animal like a bunny
at the base whose ears vibrate. They have two functions: a vibrating
clit stimulator, and the shaft is on a separate motor that causes
the shaft to rotate. You can use either/or. These vibes can be
expensive, but they have a very loyal following. The Rabbit
Pearl is the top pick in that category. As far as vibes for
penetration, no frills, just be sure to select one with dimensions
you like, and try to get one with variable-speeds, because the
only problem with one-speed vibes is that they may not be "your
speed." With
a variable you can control it, and change the intensity as you
cycle through arousal (the arousal cycle will have you wanting
different types of stimulation at different times, etc.). An interesting
trend in toys are toys that apply gentle suction to the clitoris,
and many of these vibrate. Suction draws blood to whatever area
you're suctioning, thus increasing the sensation and will heighten
the tension and arousal of that area. If this sounds interesting
to you, check out the Honey
Suckle vibe. Don't forget the lube -- my recommendations are
Hydra
Smooth and Liquid
Silk. Hope this helps! If you have more questions, email me anytime. Dear
Violet Blue- Dear
L, The first rule is to go slow -- much slower than you think. It may seem like the seasons are passing, you could go home and play all of your favorite records, or that you must be taking "too long," but you've got to take your time. (And by the way, there is no such thing as "too long" when it comes to the pursuit of sexual pleasure.) The sphincter muscles are involuntary, meaning that they are going to do whatever they want until they adjust to any new sensations. And that's the key: you want to give your lover time to adjust, and everyone's adjustment time is going to be different and can change depending on mood, cycle, or any number of factors. The next big rule is that the person being penetrated should be in a state of arousal prior to anal penetration, preferably very aroused. The third -- and major -- rule for anal sex is to use much more lube than you think is necessary. The anus is not self-lubricating and the tissues are very delicate, so you want to get yourself a nice thick lube (try Maximus, Astrogel, or Probe -- though Probe is "stringy" and not everyone likes it). Apply copious amounts of lube to them, you, and any toys, penises or fingers that are going southward. It's messy fun, and lots of lube makes it feel really good. I've recommended water-based lubricants, though you can use oils -- but be aware that oils will ruin latex (condoms), rendering any safer sex efforts ineffective, and if you or your partner is female you don't want to get any oils in the vagina. The vagina can't flush itself out very well, and oils in the vagina will make an evening's hot encounter into tomorrow's yeast infection. Anal
sex might feel "pinchy" at first, but it shouldn't hurt
-- if it hurts, you're going too fast, you don't have enough lube,
or someone doesn't really want to be doing it right now. Communication
is really important with anal sex: let the person being penetrated
call the shots and set the pace. If it doesn't work out, don't
fret -- just switch activities to something you both enjoy doing,
and plan on revisiting it later. If your sweetie gets squeamish
but still wants to try it, you can always start anal play, and
continue up to the point that they begin to feel apprehension,
then switch activities. Next time, you'll get a little further.
Two good books on anal sex are Tristan Taormino's Ultimate
Guide to Anal Sex for Women, and Bill Brent's Ultimate
Guide to Anal Sex for Men. I also cover the basics of anal
play in my Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus (wow, that's a
lot of "Ultimate's"), and I explicitly explain how to
incorporate anal play with cunnilingus (I do the same in the forthcoming
book on fellatio). If you have more questions, feel free to drop
me a line. And thank you so very much for the compliments and
praise -- it's sincerely appreciated! Hi
Violet.
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I'm
a hardworking sex writer, editor, adult book and video reviewer
and machine artist. My day job is pretty unconventional -- For forty
hours a week, I write for the worker-run sex toy company, Good Vibrations.
For most of my job, I read all of the books we carry, watch all
of the adult movies, and write the book and video reviews. I read
erotica and watch porn for a living -- it's a tough job. I also
research sex ed materials, work closely with the Education and Outreach
departments on their written materials, and write/edit things like
the Store News and Handy Shopping Guides for the web.
When
not thinking about, writing about, talking about, or having sex,
I work with
In June and July, SRL did two shows in California. Karen Marcelo took these flattering photos of me:
I'm operating a giant remote-controlled machine, the Inchworm, one that I have worked on and run during shows since 1997.
Here I am wearing my glasses and standing on the Inchworm.
Getting the Pitching Machine off the flatbed in LA.
This messy photo is from an early March photo session with Charles Gatewood. (It's raspberry syrup and purple frosting, folks.)
This is me playing miniature golf on August 17, '02:
August 12 '02, afternoon:
Updates are unpredictable. But when they happen, they're like hot melty apple pie a la mode, the perfect Bloody Mary, and liquid chocolate being poured into your mouth from a great height. Visit often.