“Only People Who Can’t Have A “Real” Relationship Watch Porn”
This is one of the most hurtful myths that shames people into sexual isolation.
Saying that anyone who masturbates to fantasy, or uses anything to enhance masturbation, is somehow flawed, emotionally crippled, mentally ill, or worse – hopeless and unable to connect intimately in a meaningful way.
This myth preys on some of our deepest and most frightening insecurities. It suggests that we can never be loved.
Retail statistics and surveys conducted by unbiased sources such as Nielsen NetRatings show that 1 in 3 women watch porn, 25% of internet users view porn, and heterosexual couples are watching porn more than ever before — these everyday people are using porn to enhance their relationships or find release between relationships.
Many people in relationships take time out for solitary pleasure which can provide release from sexual tension. in these instances, pornography is used as visual stimulation as effective as a girl’s favorite vibrator. Taking time out to masturbate when you’re in a relationship is not cheating, it’s taking care of yourself.
By the same token, there is a pervasive myth that porn performers are also people who “can’t have a real relationship.” In talking to the performers themselves, we see that this is far from the truth. Suggested reading includes Porn Stars In Love and Sex For Money, Not Love.
