(photo shot + uploaded to flickr on-site with my Helio Ocean, yay!)
Grrrr! Argh! I am quite ill today and just checked in with the She’s Geeky organizers; I’m going to try and give my talk tomorrow instead of today. I was scheduled for a 3:30 presentation on sexual privacy (and anonymity) but am too sick to do it. Perhaps exhaustion combined with something I ate? At any rate, I’m going to check back in with them tonight and see if I feel up to giving the talk tomorrow, during the open “unconference” — there are many readers I was hoping to meet in person and connect with at the She’s Geeky conference — and it’s at the historic Computer History Museum, so I’m going to be really upset if I miss it :(
On a lighter note, lecturing this weekend to SFSI students at the UCSF annex went great; above is an image of my oral sex talk notes from yesterday afternoon/evening, in LOL courtesy of my co-presenter, Thomas (a few more here)… !
And, don’t miss this incredible, in-depth review of my book The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex (thanks for the link, Alison Tyler!) I feel like the reviewer really took her time to understand the topic and the potential readership — and she took quite a bit of time to learn about me as well. So amazing! Here’s an excerpt:
The author herself says of the subject:
“Everything I’ve come across so far seems to be playing into the stereotypes that plague male- on-female anal sex. (“You’re going to take my cock up that little ass,” etc.) I don’t peg my man to work out my aggression, I peg him because the prostate is a wondrous thing…
“Pegging in most porn is festooned with stereotypes of shame and pain, like most sex in mainstream porn. And, unfortunately, these stereotypes have seeped into online sex culture. But you don’t have to be Mistress Asscrusher, and he doesn’t have to answer to Worthless Buttslut, in order to enjoy strap-on sex. Like I explain in my book, most couples who peg do it because it’s fun, intimate, new, exciting, and quite loving.”
So, let’s look at The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex. The book is set out in twelve chapters, which cover every aspect of introductory strap on sex that you can think of, and quite a few you probably haven’t thought of, lol.
The contents page not only provides chapter titles but sub headings, which means its easy to track down a specific topic. Chapter 1 (“The Forbidden Zone”), for example, provides background, talks about the “Bend over Boyfriend” phenomena and gives the recent history of the term “pegging”, now used to describe male penetrative sex for straight couples. Chapter 2 (“What It Isn’t”) discusses myths about pegging. Chapter 3 and 4 explore male anatomy. Chapter 5 (“How pegging Works (Oh So Well)”) looks at the mechanics of male orgasm and fantasies and realities of pegging.
We then move on to several chapters covering communication (“How to Ask for It” … ) before moving on to the practicalities of anal foreplay and penetration (“Anal Penetration Rules! I Mean, Rules”) with both viewpoints being covered (“His Concerns: Staying Hard and Keeping Clean”). Chapter 10 explores harnesses and dildos. Chapter 11 (“The Art of Pegging”) provides a terrific list of “how to” options (“How to come in a Harness” … “Fun Things to do When You’re Fucking him”). The final chapter provides resources for further reading, shopping links and safe sex info. Several chapters conclude with erotic pegging stories by Alison Tyler.
Violet Blue writes in an informal style that instantly engages the reader (“give a man the anal attention he craves, and you might as well have tossed a pat of butter into a hot pan”). Or both readers, actually – as the author constantly seeks to engage and reassure both parties:
“To me, the discovery that a male lover enjoys receiving anal penetration opens up a whole new world of sexual adventure between the two of us. It means he wants to share something really intimate – and something he finds powerfully pleasurable – with me.
“I know that he probably hasn’t been able to play like this with most of his other lovers … but he feels confident that we can do it… when a man tells me he wants me to strap it on and give it to him – I know I’ve found a lover who is playful, trusting, interested in having excellent sexual communication and who thinks I’m the hottest girl for the job”
The text is full of useful practicalities. A few examples … such as “How To Find the Prostate with Your Eyes Closed” (…)
Link.
