Links: Help, Resources, Porn, Blogs, and Shopping

10 pieces of BRILLIANCE put forth by a DARING and DELIGHTFUL reader

Sexual health and emotional support resources, hand-picked erotic entertainment websites and much more.

These links are carefully vetted, examined and regularly checked and maintained. They are the real deal; they are my personal selections. Tiny Nibbles does not accept payment for endorsements, reviews, or editorial link placement. I clearly disclose when I’m writing about someone who is an affiliate or sponsor. Websites I affiliate with are personal friends, sites that are respectful and tasteful, and have brands and images I have decided reflect my values and the sophisticated values of my readers, viewers and listeners. I consider them the cream of the crop.

If your porn traffics in shitty stereotypes, or you can’t use spellcheck, you’ll get no linklove from me. I do not link to sites that sell sex products known to be harmful, so if your site carries “Anal-Eze” or vaginal shrink creams don’t even ask me to look at your site. Read my sexual safety section about unsafe products if you are unsure. I also believe that free sex information and free porn is everyone’s right, and it is a positive sexual tool for education, arousal, overcoming inhibitions and self-exploration. If a site I link to has a pay section, I promise there will certainly be some other merit to make it worth your while.

Quick jump to categories: Life-saving resources * Smart porn for smart people * Sex culture, sex news and blogs * Sex stores for discriminating shoppers

Webmasters, bloggers, PR people, salespeople and startups: I consider “link trades” unethical so don’t even bother asking for a reciprocal link simply for the sake that you have linked to me. On the other hand, I love tips about finding cool new stuff and you can let me know about neat, smart, sophisticated things in the world of erotica and porn by dropping me an email: violet @ tinynibbles dot com.

Do you have a sex, sexual health or sexual identity question? Know someone who does? The following, carefully-screened websites have answers.

  • BISH Training UK based sex educator Justing Hancock’s comprehensive sex and relationships education site for young people is truly one of the best, and among the most respected sex ed sites for young people out there. Don’t miss his incredible Planet Porn education pack, a sex-positive, smart way to talk to young people about encountering porn.
  • Dangerous Lily’s Toxic Sex Toys page is highly recommended. It’s an incredible resource for toxic toy awareness, articles about sex toy materials, even info about toys that smell weird out of the package.
  • GLBT National Help Center The GLNH is an all-volunteer, nonprofit organization. They provide telephone info, email info, referrals, & peer counseling for the GLBT communities. They have over 18,000 listings for the entire US, including groups, organizations, business, bars, doctors, lawyers, therapists, etc. Hours: M-F 4pm-Midnight, Sat noon-5pm (EST). (888) THE-GLNH, (888) 843-4564
  • The Guide to Getting It On! is my favorite all-around sex book, covering everything from sex and pregnancy to sex and disability, sex positions — practically everything (for heterosexual couples) imaginable. Their web site mirrors the casual and fun tone of the book, but also has tons of info in columns about sexual health, and sex and disability resources.
  • Magnet is a San Francisco based gay men’s sexual health clinic, and it’s awesome.
  • Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want To Be Girls Transgender male-to-female and cross-dressing resource: this is the pink taffeta spawn of Miss Veronica Vera, who has run the world’s first and only actual finishing school for boys who want to be girls, and has authored two of the finest how-to books on cross dressing in print. Her site is a gateway to the academy, but is also a fantastic resource. She has oodles of links and recommendations, and there’s even an option for phone lessons available on a variety of crossdressing subjects.
  • National Sexuality Resource Center A collection of online sexual lifestyle magazines chock full of mainstream sex content that isn’t full of stereotypes and typical Cosmo-Maxim sex garbage. Fun stuff, yet academic, and they’re deeply invested in advancing sexual literacy. They have an incredible religion and sexuality resource page. Also en Espanol at SexualidadesLatinas.org.
  • PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) – (415) 921-8850 (San Francisco), (202) 467-8181 (National)
  • Planned Parenthood STD testing information, nationally. Learn about sexual health, news, and refer your Spanish-speaking friends to PP’s site. Go here for up to date, factual safer sex info — I do not recommend Wikipedia because the safer sex page is constantly updated with factual errors and is subject to edit wars so can not be trusted as a permanent source of accurate safer sex info.
  • Queer Net Chat, message boards, discussions, and you can create your own discussions in this huge global network.
  • San Francisco Sex Information I can’t recommend this resource highly enough. Info on SFSI’s classes and their hotline for sex information (415) 989 SFSI. They also do email hotline info — drop them a line and ask them a question!
  • Scarleteen Very cool site of sex info for teens.
  • Transgender Forum This is the heart of all resources for (primarily) male-to-female trans info, advice, community and resources. I’ve learned a lot here and my trans friends and family swear by it. See also: their Resources page.
  • The Trevor Project is the leading national accredited organization focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth. (866) 488-7386

How we all react to sexually explicit imagery varies from person to person. There are more kinds of porn and erotica than anyone can imagine: if you see something you don’t like, click away but don’t think it’s all the same. Be a smart porn shopper: if you hate it click away, but if you like it, then enjoy it as you would your favorite sex toy.

Never assume you know what’s going on in the images you see. If you wonder about the well-being of a performer, look them up on social media or the site they’re working for, and ask them. Most of all, enjoy your fantasies to their fullest and decide for yourself what you think about your relationship with explicit imagery. This is my personal handpicked list: I screen for quality, privacy, tastefulness, enjoyment of the performers, ethics of the creators and focus on female pleasure. Hope you like my picks. Some of these URLs are through my personal URL shortener (vbly.us, formerly vb.ly until the Libyan government seized it) so I can geek out on traffic numbers.

Safe porn surfing resources include: Bumpercar Web Browser (smart, parent-moderated web filter to keep kids away from porn), Firefox, Pornzilla, and of course AdBlockPlus, Disconnect, Ghostery and EFF’s Privacy Badger. Read my privacy book, seriously.

  • Abby Winters This awesome amateur (and professional/amateur) site prides itself on all-natural performers and authentic encounters — and they deliver. Originally from Australia and now based in Holland, the site is a nonstop source for real people having real sex, and they have a very active online community.
  • Altporn When we say someone makes porn that doesn’t fit the blonde Barbie going-through-the-motions mold, we’re describing the kind of content featured on Altporn. And here we never see the homophobic, natural-body-phobic, fun-phobic mainstream porn industry attitudes.
  • Bright Desire The female director behind this site is an award-winning indie pornographer, and her popular couples’ site reflects her passion for making beautiful porn that’s heavy on the lust and chemistry. Highly recommended; based in Australia.
  • Cocky Boys If you’re looking for absolutely gorgeous, chemistry-heavy gay male porn with performers so attractive they put Hollywood’s hotties to shame, then I can’t recommend this site enough. They make films, they tell stories, and most importantly, they have lots of hardcore sex.
  • Comstock Films This is the brainchild of maverick porn maker Tony Comstock and his wonderful wife — the very same company that brought us the first revolution in hot, true-love, couple’s porn, “Marie and Jack: A Hardcore Love Story.”
  • Cosplay Deviants A fun, refreshing indie site that features amateurs who take cosplay seriously — and want to cross the line into sexualizing their play.
  • Crash Pad Series This is some hot, authentic, original indie porn — made by women (and they’re mostly women of color). It’s an ongoing series where characters pass around keys to a “crash pad” for anonymous sex in a San Francisco apartment, which is filmed from a voyeuristic point of view. This site has a loyal following that encompasses all genders and sexual orientations.
  • Cult Epics Vintage porn and erotica is a great place to start — or stay a while and enjoy yourself. Cult Epics is a find-and-a-half for people seeking to purchase sophisticated porn, especially vintage explicit erotic films. This site has vintage porn from the 1930s and ’40s restored on DVD, right along with Maria Beatty’s black and white modern classics and many uncut (explicit) films by Caligula director Tinto Brass.
  • CutePet Hentai, pinups and comics depicting outrageous, extremely explicit sex, all within genre categories. The art is really amazing, and so are the delightfully impossible, erotically exaggerated fantasies. See also: JigglyGirls (same network).
  • Divine Bitches The best FemDom site on the web, and then some! I love this site run by a super-sexy powerful woman, her dominating sexy female cohorts, and the handsome men they erotically torture — they train houseboys, and sometimes play a wicked game of “bend over boyfriend” to finish the scene. Very high production values, and the men really get punished — with clear consent. Fans of the “clothed female, naked male” fetish will love this, and while it’s a paysite, it has plenty of explicit free porn to get you going.
  • Dorcel Club If high-end, moneyed, exquisite, filthy French porn sounds like your cup of tea, prepare ti have your mind blown. Marc Dorcel has created an incredible porn site that’s best described as Eyes Wide Shut with the masks off. I love this site.
  • Evil Angel Fairly extreme hardcore, even with female directors: EA is home to one of my all-time favorite porn directors John Leslie (wonderful all-sex films with all-natural European amateurs), and their copious, free trailers (and video podcasts) are extremely explicit yet a fantastic resource if this is what you’re looking for.
  • Explicite Art I was delighted to discover this French explicit porn site. The performers are having fun, we see a lot of safer sex, it’s all well shot and for those looking to see very explicit sex with the lightest possible dash of kink — but mostly good, old-fashioned het adventures that include threesomes of varying combinations — this website is a breath of fresh air. Enjoy the free fruits of my research to find us all some good quality European pr0ns.
  • Fatale Media The makers of some of the finest independent lesbian porn available and they carry many lesbian classics. Nan Kinney, one of the founding publishers of On Our Backs magazine, is the president of Fatale Media and producer of Fatale videos. They are primarily geared toward lesbians, yet include “other adventurous souls,” and one of their best-selling releases is Bend Over Boyfriend.
  • For The Girls I *heart* Ms. Naughty and her blog, and store, and general kick-ass attitude toward porn for women. Indy-owned and the largest porn for women empire on the Internet. Heterosexual focus, includes erotica, porn, galleries and more.
  • Frolic Me Gorgeous, very hot woman-run site of films, stories and more — with really sexy performers — all of which makes me wish there were more like this.
  • Fucking Machines Yes, it’s the famous site where fierce local San Francisco girls have screaming, ecstatic orgasms at their own hands using modified machines — it’s amazing. A paysite with lots of hot freebees, and new machines being invented all the time.
  • Future of Sex: VR Porn Resource Center The wonderful, sex-positive people at Future of Sex put together this terrific resource guide to the burgeoning world of VR (virtual reality) porn. Read their guide on how to watch it, a list of the top sites right now, hardware and software reviews, and more.
  • Girlfriend Handjobs This site is fantastic for so many reasons: real couples that are attractive, genuine chemistry, and a focus on not only the sexual interaction and clearly enjoyable control the women takes of their boyfriends’ pleasure, but the focus on playing with hot men. Nice.
  • Girls Out West I can’t recommend this Australian, women-run adult site highly enough. Very high quality, lots of super-hot couplings (hetero and girl-girl), they make it seem like Australia is full of gorgeous men and women, and that sex with an Aussie is fun, fun, fun. Their site is easy to use and they prize privacy. Superb!
  • Hot Movies for Her A full porn shopping theater curated by women, for women — with a wide range of tastes, from mainstream to outsider. The porn loving women at Hot Movies got tired of having no place in the adult market (or having the market treat them like they only watched what their boyfriends cajoled them into watching). So they actively handpick through the largest online adult library to find the best movies: straight, lesbian, bisexual, gay, trans… An unbelievable selection. Pick your porn preference in their specialty theaters or browse the full collection in their main theater. Watch videos online discreetly with no monthly or recurring charges. Pay as you go. They also have a blog featuring reviews, tips, stories, interviews and more.
  • I Shot Myself Women-run, Australian amateur website under that features women of all (hot) varieties making their own explicit photo shoots. Very yummy, lots of hot free content, and there are some really nice, smart and articulate women behind this enterprise.
  • I Feel Myself The same women who run I Shot Myself have this tasteful, sexy and really fabulous Aussie amateur video masturbation website: I know women and men who know where to find free porn but pay for this site, and this site alone. High quality and tasteful, with regular free content.
  • JoyBear Superb British porn site, with high production values and great offerings. They had a very well-received launch in the press, as a sophisticated porn site for couples who like their romance mixed with raunch.
  • Joymii If Apple made porn, it would probably look like this. Clean tableaus, attractive performers without tattoos or piercings, and sex without any of porn’s rough practices make this site a popular choice for many. It’s also a good choice if you or your partner isn’t into anal sex.
  • Juliland Juli Ashton’s outrageously polished porn site. I spent a lot of time there — do look at the free movies. Juliland has been around for a few years, though recently the site and all the ancillary media has gotten really slick — no DRM on the videos, among many other nice touches. Ashton is a smart and powerful woman who runs the site hands-on, and graduated from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. The shoots are entirely comprised of remarkable women doing really wonderfully dirty things, and include Aria Giovanni, Dita Von Teese, Kim Kane, Bobbi Starr, Charlotte Vale, Dana DeArmond, Jada Fire, Justine Joli and a lot of other beauties.
  • Kink.com This is the premiere kinky, BDSM and fetish online porn and erotica empire. They have over a dozen different high-end websites with tastes from the mild to the extreme, and many of their websites are (surprisingly) run, scripted and directed by women. I’ve been there many times to have lunch with the staff: they’re diverse, sex-positive and while the porn looks extreme, all of the scenes are the performers’ fantasies. Their safety rules and regulations are outstanding. And their kinky porn is… incredible.
  • Lust Cinema This is one of the best porn sites online: Spanish porn director Erika Lust featuers her films alongside huge and growing stable of female pornographers from all over the world (including Tristan Taormino, Maria Beatty and others). Everything here feels like a ‘real’ movie, but with incredibly hot sex and gorgeous performers.
  • Maria Beatty Her independent, lesbian and fetish-focused S/M films are breathtaking and win awards at film festivals, and her site is a feast for the eyes. See what’s new, view stills and more. Gorgeous!
  • Met Art Fine art nudes at their very best, shot all over Europe by top photographers. This is what men’s magazines aspire to be, but don’t have the taste, beauty or courage to show it all like the award-winning Met Art does. This is one of the most popular high-end pinup sites in the world.
  • Next Door Hookups A very tasty, hetero amateur paysite with plenty of freebees — but most notably, it’s straight porn shot from a gay male perspective so the focus is on the (good looking) amateur guys. What does straight porn with real-life, attractive couples look like? Refreshing and arousing.
  • Nubile Films This is where you’ll find beautifully shot couples’ porn, with threesomes, experimentation, award-winning girl-girl scenes and much more. If you’re looking for top-shelf, heterosexually-focused, explicit yet respectful porn, with a focus on kissing and connection — without the rough stuff — I highly recommend this terrific site.
  • Pink Label TV This is pioneering, indie porn director Shine Louise Houston’s queer-owned hub for streaming queer independent adult video. It presents her company’s prolific work including feature films, and videos from an ever-increasing catalog of new, talented and groundbreaking indie porn makers. This is where all genders and all orientations are truly showcased having hot sex the way they really like to fuck, and the chemistry is always riveting.
  • Porn MD For garden-variety porn from around the globe on free tube sites, Porn MD searches 10+ porn tube sites, all in the PornHub network (they own everyone in the porn-tube space). The free tube sites largely have content from pay-porn production companies, in affiliate deals the tube network makes with pornographers. Other content is user-generated and user-uploaded.
  • Public Disgrace Dominatrix Princess Donna takes sadomasochism, female submission, public and group sex to the furthest — this site isn;t for everyone, but they are clear about safety and consent. Donna works closely with the women to tailor their extreme fantasies and make them come true for the camera in the safest way, even if it feels like edgy ‘reality’ hardcore. It’s not for beginners, but if bondage, public scenes (carefully staged), group sex and female domination of female submissives is your taste, this site is it.
  • Pure CFNM The acronym “clothed female, naked male” tells you what the scenarios are: women with their clothes on, totally in charge of men they get to strip and perform sex acts purely for the amusement and pleasure of the women. Sometimes one women, but often several women and one lucky guy — or a guy in a whole lot of playful trouble. Pure CFNM is the best of its kind online, and hails from the U.K.
  • Sapphic Erotica No kink (unless strap-ons and occasional anal play is your kink), no bondage, seldom any tattoos or piercings — simple, playful, orgasm-filled girl-on-girl action is at Sapphic. Occasionally the marketing text is annoying and lame, but this site is the best I’ve found and enjoyed for watching young women having sex and nothing but sex with each other.
  • Stagg Street Famous for her work as an erotic photographer starring in a reality web series for IFC — The Stagg Party — Ellen Stagg has a vast catalog of gorgeous, highly arousing galleries of the most beautiful adult and indie models in the business. The way she shoots them is a huge turn-on (especially when it’s two girls together), and she loves her ongoing work so much that she constantly blogs about how much fun she has on her latest projects.
  • Stroke That Dick Straight amateur boys making money masturbating for the camera, solo — incredibly enjoyable.
  • Trouble Films The Trouble Films Network is writer, director and performer Courtney Trouble’s independent queer porn film empire. The porn is high quality, explicit, and regularly wins awards for hot sex scenes with a huge variety of sex acts and diverse performers.

Sex blogging changed the cultural conversation about sex, and there are lots of great ones out there. Sex journalism is still an emergent field, and finding good, accurate and interesting writing about sex is still a piecemeal challenge. There are a lot of great sex writers and bloggers, but sadly few media outlets know what to do with them. Good sex writing requires a reader with critical thinking skills, so find who you like and follow along as we all bounce from one freelance gig to another.

  • Alison Tyler: Trollop With A laptop Tyler’s erotica is pretty much the hottest thing going on in the world of female-focused, women-authored explicit erotic fiction and she’s always having fun contests and giveaways. I’m a big fan — her stories never fail to arouse and engage both my brain and my many other erogenous zones. This is also the site for her publishing house, Pretty Things Press.
  • Audacia Ray Ms. Ray is a former sex worker, outrageously smart and one of the most gifted sex writers out there; it’s really easy to get hooked on her thought-provoking blog.
  • BaDoink is a sleek, smartly done, thoughtful and open-minded online sex lifestyle magazine — it rocks. Articles focus on adult entertainment (including the porn industry), sex-positivity, sex lifestyle trends, film reviews, app reviews, and a love for all things sex tech. Regularly updated with terrific articles, hot babe features, an erotica archive, and a paysite area for porn.
  • Clean Sheets Fiction, poetry, nonfiction, sex astrology, and community.
  • Dr. Carol Queen Renowned sexologist Dr. Queen is pioneer, public speaker, sex educator, sexual revolutionary, advice columnist and pleasure activist. She is also a personal friend and one of my sex advice resources.
  • Dr. Charlie Glickman This blog is a treasure of sex information, sex culture commentary and resources for navigating human sexuality, written by a man who is a good friend and an educator I’ve worked with (for over a decade) and deeply respect. He’s the top resource for prostate information, and issues surrounding masculinity, consent, polyamory and much more.
  • Dangerous Lilly website is an indispensable resource for sex toy… everything! Reviews, sex toy culture, info about shops, a hyooge article and reference area for questions about toxic sex toys, care and cleaning of toys, body-safe toys, a sex toy reviewer directory and much more. I honestly don’t know how we survived before Lilly’s blog came along!
  • Dave Naz Incredible and completely adventurous erotic photographer (of the hardcore variety) — his blog never lets me down. And he’s sweet and soft-spoken and has tons of humility.
  • Eon McKai Eon is one of my closest friends, period. He is a very art-minded porn director that has changed the pace of moderm porn forever, and it was about time. Like me, he loves the foreplay part of porn more often than the sex-by-the-numbers that usually follows. He mixes real altporn performers with garden-variety porn stars and comes up with really interesting results, even though the sex usually (but not always) follows the same formulas seen in typical porn productions. He loves to bring in art school costumers, street artists, undiscovered musicians and beautiful, intelligent women who typically later go on to direct their own films.
  • ErosBlog There are many erotic blogs on the web, but few are as consistently amusing as ErosBlog. I love visiting for the hilarious commentary, the weird pictures, and sometimes utter exasperation at how truly bizarre the world can be — and I love the casual style and tone. Visit regularly, and not only will you have a more skewed view of the world, but you’ll have strange pictures to show your friends and links aplenty to free porn. I visit daily.
  • Erotica Readers & Writers Association makes being an erotic writer and editor — and publisher — great. Community, resources, advice, information, calls for submissions and much much more. If you write or edit, check it out.
  • Erotic Scribes is one of those rare, limited resources — an online sex culture magazine. Articles a-plenty cover women and porn, hot new sex books, the issues of crowdfunding porn, challenges in hiring escorts, and more, and they cover all contemporary sex topics you see in the media… but wish were covered fully, from the sex-positive point of view, and in-depth.
  • Hey Epiphora For over seven years, this website has reviewed sex toys mercilessly and with much wit (and snark), earning its tagline, “Where sex toys go to be judged.” It’s an invaluable resource, and has done more than anyone realizes to change the conversations around sex toys, sex toy safety, and how we relate to our little friends.
  • Jane’s Guide A vast listing of sex culture and porn site reviews, with each site personally reviewed by an actual human being — a woman named Jane. It may be less attended to these days, so not all links may work.
  • Jiz Lee Seen as a rising star sex art performer, straddles sex and gender lines boldly, Lee is a tech nerd and just generally, utterly fantastic.
  • Laughing Squid isn’t a sex blog, but *is* an essential culture blog for your bookmarks (full disclosure: I am an LS guest blogger). Sweet Scott Beale is a friend and co-conspirator about all things tech and community and is one of the best photographers around. Plus, if you dig around the site you’ll see what an amazing (and truly innovative) underground arts and events resource it is.
  • Lou Paget Best-selling author of The Big O, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure, and How to be A Great Lover. Her site features the latest toys and updated information on her popular sex seminars.
  • 3xL: Lust, Love & Latex You just have to check out this fetish blog, because even if you’re not into fetish or rubber, they have a great blog, notify about worldwide events, and continually posts all manner of bizarre sex links and pretty rubber stuff to buy.
  • Midori One of the most respected sex educators of our time is Midori; artist, author, filmmaker, educator and more. Her private Shibari workshops, women’s sexual dominance retreats, erotic rope bondage classes and performances are much sought-after, and somewhat legendary.
  • Oh Joy, Sex Toy One look and you’ll be hooked on this hilarious, informative and completely epic comic site where artist Erika Moen draws sex advice, toy reviews and celebrity sex guest panels about all kinds of sexual fun, frolic and adventure. I love it!
  • Pucker Up: Tristan Taormino Sex educator, porn director and all-around sex expert Tristan Taormino’s fantastic website and blog. She directs numerous hardcore sex-ed videos and a fantastic reality porn series called “Chemistry” that is all about performers who live out their fantasy sex (with each other, hence the name ‘chemistry’) for the camera. She’s also produced several female performers who have become directors in their own right, empowering stuff.
  • Rachel Kramer Bussel Few blogs are as consistently entertaining and informative about what it’s like to be a sexy sassy sex writer as this one. Updated regularly, it’s really fun to keep up with Bussell, especially because she’s like the Hedda Hopper of the sex writing biz.
  • Rain DeGrey Sex educator, writer, presenter, podcaster, and performer Rain DeGrey has been writing articles and teaching classes, focusing on kink, relationships, and sex education, since 2009. Her website is a gold mine of articles, reviews, and accurate sex information on kink, sexual health and well-being, consent and fantasy, and so much more. Also features her fab Dirty Talk Podcast, where with a co-host she answers listener questions about sex, religion, politics, and current events.
  • Savage Love (podcast, blog, column). My friend Dan could go in any of these categories, but I’ll put him in the top one where he belongs. Irreverent and accurate, he’s one of the best educators of our time.
  • Slashdong Geek sex toy hacker qDot blogs about sex and technology from a smart, down-to-earth, open-source POV, making this site seem like it’s sent from the future. Funny, cool and the cutting-edge source for sex, tech and open source teledildonics (and much more).
  • Steve Diet Goedde An outrageously talented fetish photographer, good friend and seriously sweet guy.
  • Thomas Roche One of my favorite erotica authors and a writer who can actually make a crime noir erotica short story sexually graphic and laugh-out-loud funny. He’s a very bad man who needs to be punished by gang of cranky women in Catholic schoolgirl uniforms.
  • Unscathed Corpse Here is one of my very favorite visually focused fetish blogs. Unscathed delivers art, latex fashion, strange and bizarre links, sublime photo galleries of fetish babes and so much more.
  • Viviane’s Sex Carnival This woman-run sex culture link blog is high on my most-reputable list of resources, covering sex news, sexual health, toy reviews, and more. Not updated as frequently as I wish, but it’s one of the longest-running and best sex blogs ever.

These are all sites I’ve personally reviewed, and many I know personally. Nonetheless, be a smart shopper and always read the privacy policies. I’ve indicated where some previously women-owned shops are no longer women-owned.

  • Adam and Eve While my small-business-owned supporters will cringe that I am including what they see as the Blockbuster of sex toy retail, I feel that Adam and Eve deserves props because they historically fought anti-adult prosecutors in court so that companies can legally sell butt plugs in the mail, and because they have a decent video selection. Mail-order catalog and web site of toys, books, videos, DVDs, safer-sex supplies, and lingerie, with a heterosexual focus — they even have online personal ads for customers and the web site has a Spanish option. Double-check the privacy policies as you order.
  • Alcova With a website and a brick-and-mortar store in Rome, Italy, Alcova is a reputable fetish and BDSM shop that offers BDSM gear, clothing, sex toys, and even sex furniture. Website is in Italian.
  • A Woman’s Touch Women owned Madison, WI store of adult products focused towards women.
  • Babeland Seattle, Los Angeles and Manhattan stores that are women-focused and provide classes along with toys, books and videos. Great staff! Contrary to any rumors otherwise, Babeland is owned entirely by Rachel and Claire, two proud queer women. “We are very much still feminist identified and led and run mostly by queers and women at every level of the company.” Babeland told me they take “a lot of pride in our long history as a queer and trans positive workplace. Our customer demographic is largely straight and cis-gendered — we promote sexual vitality for everyone.”
  • Babes ‘n Horny Small and women-owned, this is a super-fab London sex toy store with an excellent online shop; women-friendly, with a superlative selection of really cool and unusual sex toys.
  • Blissbox This is a London-based web site and mail order company that offers videos, sex toys and accoutrements, and possibly one of the best adult video review databases around. The site is smooth, incredibly well designed and easy on the eyes, they provide fan information on porn stars, and the site’s sex tips are accurate and to the point. Videos and toys paired together are a perfect combination, and Blissbox knows it, and the tone of the site is healthy, nonjudgemental, supportive and encouraging. They have a strict and simple privacy policy.
  • Coco de Mer This is one of the absolute sexiest, classiest high-end erotic emporiums in the world. They have gorgeous, glorious boutique shops in the US and UK. (Owned by LoveHoney.)
  • Come As You Are Toronto, Canada sex toy store dedicated to accurate sex info. If you go there, pay them a visit!
  • Condomania I love Condomania — fifty sizes of condoms and a printable measuring chart! The site is fun, has weird new products and news.
  • Crystal Delights These stunning creations are winning awards for design, and its no wonder: The toys here feature Swarovski crystals, fanciful colors and playful tails, and the aesthetic takes sex play to a whole new level. Entrepreneur Shellie Yarnell has created an above-and-beyond line of gorgeous anal plugs and dildos, and she’s also an outspoken sex-positive, fetish-loving pundit. Also, “we are dedicated to giving back through a variety of ways, including charitable donations, supporting sex education, animal charities, the LGBT community and helping the environment.”
  • Gamelink The biggest selection of porn for sale (and most diverse) VoD and pay per minute, and they carry Vivid Alt. Gamelink runs the video backend for Good Vibrations and a number of other sex toy retailers.
  • She Vibe Possibly the most fun sex toy site online ever, this comic-style, female focused vibrator site is a blast to click around, and as entertaining as it is sexually inspiring.
  • Stockroom Attention kinky shoppers! Stockroom has kinky toys, and wicked-sexy photos of almost all their products in action. Great people run this powerhouse, and some really wonderful people work there. They own Stormy Leather.
  • Lelo Everything on this luxury sex toy maker’s site is to die for. It’s definitely the top end of the price point spectrum, but every penny spent is worth it.
  • LoveHoney I love LoveHoney! They’re one of my favorite UK-based online sex shops, and I’m really happy to have watched their success from the beginning. They’re really into supporting writers, having fun features, great sex toy designing contests, and they run an eco-friendly sex toy disposal program.
  • Lust is a women-run, women-focused online sex boutique from Denmark, with a lovely site and fantastic selection. Site is in Danish.
  • Pleasure Chest Retail stores (NY, LA, Chicago), gorgeous website and catalog of novelties, toys, videos, and clothing. When I cold-called them for undercover research on my video book, they were incredibly nice, helpful and very knowledgeable about their straight and gay video selection (sales only, no rentals).
  • Tantus This maker of excellent, affordable, sexy, hygienic, and versatile silicone sex toys is one of my number one picks. It’s also a woman-founded, woman-run empire that changed the way the mainstream adult industry packages and sells toys, as well as raising the bar for health standards among sex toy manufacturers. One women’s vision and activism has made a difference — and the toys are oh so yummy.
  • Womyn’s Ware Women-focused Vancouver store with toys, books and novelties.

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  7. Samelius Astraton · Edit

    Sex in Space, Would love to give that a go.. Me and my girlfriend tried to recreate it in an erotic Fantasy Environment, My floating sock, fwapped her in the face, and we were floating around everywhere. Good Fun, but we were interrupted half way through, and had to bring the flying room, back to the planet.. After your info, about it, We will give it another go.. Yay

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