- She wanted to be The Ethical Slut, in the image of the book. “Orgies, or whatever you want to call them – we had them. The first one was at his apartment in the East Village. His best friend and younger brother were there and I brought my best friend. We did cocaine and kissed and showered and drank rum and danced around in headdresses. I gave his friend a blowjob while he fucked me from behind.” The Ethical Slut Revisited: Why I Am No Longer an Ethical Slut (The Faster Times, via Rachel Kramer Bussel)
- BBC just ran the story In pictures: The Yakuza which ended with a provocative image in a Japanese explicit dance club. I found the post about what happened that night… The night club | a two dollar bill (anton kusters)
- Sex workers feed a meter? The city of Bonn has begun collecting taxes from prostitutes with an automated pay station similar to a parking meter, proving again that German efficiency knows few if any bounds. In Germany, Sex Workers Feed a Meter (NYT, thanks ArW!)
- Last week, Fox News weirdly lashed out at Gawker, apparently because Gawker was working on a story that would make someone at Fox look bad. Now that story is here; it alleges that Bill O’Reilly used his clout to get the cops to investigate the guy he suspected his wife was having an affair with (who was also a cop). Here’s Why Fox News Was Trashing Gawker (Buzzfeed)
- A 70-year-old retired widow from San Francisco who was accused of sharing a porn movie [Amateur Allure: Kim] on BitTorrent has seen the case against her dropped. BitTorrent Grandma Was Wrongfully Accused, Lawyer Admits (TorrentFreak)
- One in five women that receive silicone breast implants need to have them removed within 10 years due to complications, and as many as half of women who receive implants for reconstruction after breast surgery, will need them removed within the same time frame. The FDA will take a look at improving procedure safety this week and update the medical community. Silicone Valley: FDA Opens Up Breast Implant Safety Talks (Medical News Today)
- “The downfall of his “encouragement” for my bisexuality was that it came in the form of introducing me to women that “he thought I would like”. It took several months and the exposure of his multiple extramarital affairs for it to truly hit home that these were women that -he- was interested in and was hoping that I would also find appealing for our combined sexual pleasure.” On (Not) Being Bi For Your Entertainment (Alpha Femme Confessions, via Charlie Glickman)
- There was a time when “morning show” was a byword for erotic movie. These were screened in theaters across India a few hours before the regular Bollywood blockbusters. Although morning shows – of the adult variety – have all but died out in India, many of their promotional posters are still around. An Exhibition of Indian Adult Movie Posters (WSJ)
- While waiting in their places filming True Blood, Skarsgård looks down at his costar and says dryly, “It looks like he’s sucking me off,” to which Moyer responds by bobbing his head vigorously. Skarsgård closes his eyes and starts moaning with the intensity of a slash-fiction hero, after which Moyer stands up and wipes imaginary fluids from his mouth with the back of his hand. Alexander Skarsgard and Stephen Moyer Suck for the Crew (Towleroad)
- The phenomenon of women who have casual sex for its own sake seems to baffle many people. It’s widely believed that women have sex for love, commitment, poor self-control, to manipulate men, to please men, to make babies, to sooth their low self-esteem, and just about any reason at all other than their own pleasure. (While men, of course, are rutting horndogs who just want to stick it in the nearest wet hole available.) Puritan Pundits Should Chill Out — Here Are 5 Reasons I’m Happy I’ve Had Lots of Casual Sex (AlterNet)
- Sex chats, tracked: An Ohio woman and her boyfriend can sue a laptop-tracking company that recorded their sexually explicit IM communications in an effort to identify thieves who stole the computer the woman was using. Couple Can Sue Laptop-Tracking Company for Spying on Sex Chats (Wired)
- Finally! An answer to the hanky code question that plagues the flagging femme. How does one creatively flag without back pockets on your outfit (or without an outfit on at all)? How about a hanky flower in your hair? Wear it on the right or left to show your colors! The Original Hanky Flowers for Flagging Femmes (kinkycraft)
Jonathan, I’m so glad you spoke up about it. I think that a lot of people’s sexual exploration gets unfortunately negatively colored by the fact that they tried something new with a total asshole. Or that they really don’t like what they tried and have to make a generalization about it. That’s what I got from the piece – but also that The Ethical Slut is a book that should be read if it is going to be practiced. And, that the book is limited in scope, and leaves much to be desired in defining today’s relationships.
Personally, I’m hoping Dan Savage is working on a book about monogamy. That would be very interesting.
I can’t hate on that “Why I am no longer an ethical slut” piece enough. She had a single bad relationship and so now condemns other people’s lifestyles as unethical? She can’t handle a poly-amorous relationship, therefore there’s no such thing as “an ethical slut”? Absolute nonsense.