Female indie porn director Courtney Trouble is tired of Big Porn telling her to edit consensual fisting out of her indie porn films to gain “mainstream” acceptance – and get distribution though their hallowed, shriveling channels. In the first week of October, beloved queer porn star Jiz Lee and adored director Courtney Trouble announced they were establishing a day to sex-positively celebrate a sex act that enjoyed and misunderstood in equal measure: the practice of “fisting” (slowly inserting a closed hand into an excited lover). Lee wrote, “October 21st is unofficially officially International Fisting Day! Join me in being vocal about fisting! I include my love of fisting on all my bios and do it on camera whenever I can. Let’s celebrate and normalize the act!”
My pal Dan Savage often answers questions about fisting:
- Eat It! (2002)
- Fisting Is Super Titillating (2004)
- Interest in Fisting (2011)
The most recommended how-to book on the topic is Hand In The Bush by Deborah Addington. Additionally, Vice has a great interview with Deborah Addington about fisting.
Here is a variety of hot porn with fisting – don’t miss what I wrote about fisting in sex culture after the galleries:
- Silvie Fisting Massage
- Jasmine (I love her!) and Angel
- Best of fisting (videos)
- Cecilia , Rachel, Astrae fisting and squirting
- Nikita Bellucci and Coco Charnelle
- Jessie and Graziella (videos)
- Anal fisting trio from Paris
- Heaven and Hailee (girl-girl)
- Busty porn star Illona– vaginal receptive, from a boy
- Porn performer Leda Paris receives anal fisting from a male partner
- Male receptive, female fist: Saskia humiliates Simon
- Katy, Deniska and Alana
- Jiz Lee and Billy Castro
Mainstream porn still refuses to acknowledge that fisting is a normalized sex act that came out of the closet long ago. Indie porn director Courtney Trouble writes,
In the past month, I have had one full length film and five of my best porn scenes denied by a mainstream company for publication because of one thing: fisting. Unless you’re a member of No Fauxxx or QueerPorn.TV, most of the porn scenes out there directed by me, I’ve had to edit out the fisting.
See also:
- Jiz Lee’s interview on fisting, with a small gallery
- Courtney Trouble’s International Fisting Day Round Up
Fisting used to be called “handballing.” The term “fisting” gradually took over as a new generation of lesbians, gay men and BDSM practitioners of all genders and sexual orientations demystified the sex act through sex ed awareness raising via how-to books, sexuality classes, and the accurate representation of fisting in erotica and porn that reflected the actual practices surrounding the act. The demystification of fisting began in the early 1990s though feminist sexuality outlets such as Good Vibrations and indie publishers such as Cleis Press and Greenery Press that saw a need for sex information outside conservative mainstream channels.
It’s misunderstood to be a violent or painful act, yet in real life it’s a sex act that involves close and attentive communication between sex partners, a level of sex ed and awareness by practitioners not found in average sex partners, and trust. The kind of person that liked to have an entire hand inserted is one that enjoys the feeling of fullness, and discovers that when their desire for fullness is met that they have explosive orgasms as a result.
Not everyone will be inclined to try or like to feel so full. But those that do, like it a lot. Some people are just smaller inside and the feeling of fullness will just be uncomfortable, and not what gets them off. It’s a lot like G-spot play; some women say it makes them feel like they have to pee, and that’s not hot. Fisting and G-spot play are sex arens where the phrase “different strokes for different folks” applies in a literal sense.
The act of fisting, like many so-called “outsider” sex acts, has been widely misunderstood and misrepresented in mainstream porn – which is no surprise, as mainstream porn has long seen itself as a dated guardian (of sorts) of “normal” heterosexual sex practices and heteronormative enforcement. One example is fisting’s inclusion in Big Porn’s forbidden sex act list, The Cambria List, which also forbade the depiction of female ejaculation and simultaneous sex with bondage.
As Big Porn no longer controls porn distribution, they can no longer control its content, and so sex acts like fisting have come out of the closet to slowly become more visible in both mainstream and LGBT and BDSM porn. It’s what people were already doing for fun and pleasure – Big Porn just never showed it, just like they never depicted many sex acts that lots of regular people with a level of sex interest above mish-doggie-cowgirl-facial actually enjoy in real life. Oh – and lots and lots of straight people enjoy fisting, too.
Simply put, fisting is when the person that likes the sensation of fullness gets incredibly aroused and their lover slowly introduces all the fingers, then the thumb, and then the closed hand into the recipient. It requires much arousal on the recipient’s part, and the person doing the insertion uses a lot of lube, often a latex or nitrile glove (so the hand is perfectly smooth and for a sterile surface), an a lot of patience. The hand isn’t actually in a punching-fist shape; the fingers gently fold over as the hand allows its shape to be dictated by the space it’s entering, to become more of an elongated closed hand.
And no – it doesn’t “make you loose” or “like the Grand Canyon down there.” There are no lasting or permanent changes from either fisting or anal sex, as the muscles involved on the recipient’s side are often seen to be in better shape – it’s not looseness that allows large objects, nor does fullness make anyone “looser.”
For more info on fisting myths and concerns, read The Truth About Fisting.
